You Can’t Shame Yourself Into Healing A lot of people approach healing like a performance review. They notice themselves overthinking and immediately say, “Why am I like this?” They get anxious and tell themselves, “This is ridiculous.” They react emotionally and then spend hours replaying it, criticizing themselves for not handling it better. They procrastinate, shut down, people-please, avoid conflict, or spiral, and then pile judgment on top of the original struggle. And somehow we expect...